Your side
Your side — Centers your stated experience, needs, choices, and responsibility within the relationship.
Ask about a relationship dynamic, then choose six cards for your heart, their visible side, the bridge between you, hidden tension, what can help, and a conditional near dynamic.
Fix one clear question before choosing cards. Include only the context you know or have observed; the optional selections describe your view of the situation, not verified facts about the other person.
Six positions separate your experience, the other person's visible participation, the connection between you, and a respectful next step. Differences between the cards may remain unresolved.
Your side — Centers your stated experience, needs, choices, and responsibility within the relationship.
Their visible side — Reflects supplied information and observable participation, never certain private thoughts or feelings.
The bridge — Examines the interaction, communication, or shared condition connecting the two sides.
Hidden tension — Suggests a possible pressure or assumption to test rather than a secret fact.
Potential direction — Describes a conditional trajectory if the present pattern continues, not a promised outcome.
Next respectful step — Offers one action or boundary that preserves consent and agency.
Keep the exact question, deck, reversal setting, cards, orientations, and positions fixed. Do not force the two sides into false agreement.
Mark which details came from direct behavior or communication and which are your interpretation. Leave the other person's unknown experience unknown.
Choose one invitation, boundary, pause, or conversation within your control. A respectful step cannot require compliance from someone else.
Use the Guide to review how relationship positions work and where privacy, consent, and uncertainty set the ceiling.
Move to another format only when you need a smaller climate check, a broader interaction system, or an ethical reset.